Though it is difficult to prepare for the emotional complexity of a funeral, there are some things for attendees to be aware of. Below are several etiquette tips to make the event go smoothly as a remembrance of a loved one’s life.
What to Wear
When deciding what to wear to a funeral Middletown, those attending should consider that no one will judge them based on appearance. People attend funerals to support the bereaved, not to judge them. With that said, choosing what to wear can feel like a very important decision. Simply choose conservative, clean clothing that is comfortable to wear.
Where to Sit
The first row or two of seats are typically reserved for the decedent’s immediate family. At many services, friends and guests want to make sure the family has enough space, but they end up isolating them in the front rows. If a family member finds themselves sitting alone, they can invite others to sit next to them. However, if the first rows are occupied, it is appropriate to ask people to move.
Greeting Others
Family members should be prepared to greet people and accept condolences offered. However, a bereaved relative should not feel obligated to personally greet everyone, especially if there are many in attendance. A simple “Hello, thanks for coming” is sufficient. However, if a longer conversation seems appropriate, that is acceptable as well.
Handling Awkward or Inappropriate Questions or Conversations
While most guests mean well, not everyone knows how to express their sorrow or behave at a funeral. Family members should be prepared for people to say things that may seem insensitive or awkward, and they should try to give the speaker the benefit of a doubt. When faced with insensitive questions or comments, simply tell the speaker that it’s not the right time to discuss it and move on.
Honorariums
Honorariums are payments given for services that are provided free of charge. Most religious singers and clergy take part in a funeral Middletown for no cost, but it is good etiquette to offer a small honorarium. The amount offered is up to the family, and is typically based on what they can afford. If it is preferable, some funeral homes such as John P. Condon Funeral Home take care of the honorarium in the form of a cash advance.
